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Your Elegant List…

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Good Monday Morning Everyone,

I had a pretty good weekend. I got most of my house chores done and we went and picked out carpet for our home. We are going to be replacing our carpet soon and I CAN NOT WAIT! It is long overdue and I will be so happy to get rid of this brown carpet. 

On Friday I shared the 100 Ways to be Elegant list. As I said before, I love this list. How could you not but that got me thinking. We all have our own way of living well and beautifully. What’s on your list?

 

photo credit: Victoria Magazine 

 

Do you have an elegant dish that you like or a favorite scarf or shoe? What about activities? Is there anything that you do that gives you a sense of beauty?

 

photo credit: Mrs. Shockley (home life)

 

You all know that I can’t go without my fresh flowers. I love how they look and I adore the light scent that they give. I also love wearing perfume. There is something about smelling your favorite scent and living it behind when you walk out of a room. 

What about you? What is your elegant list? Please share your elegant list I would love to learn what they are!

 

 

Antiquing on Saturday

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Good Morning Everyone,

I actually had a really good weekend! On Saturday I ran my normal errands, took Lauren to the hair salon, did some antique shopping, and had dinner at the Cheesecake Factory. I will share my beautiful and soooo delicious dinner on Wednesday for my monthly favorites post. I tried a new dish. I tried the herb-crusted lemon salmon. Oh my word!!!! So good! I will share a photo tomorrow. 

In today’s post, I wanted to share my recent antique finds! You guys know me I love going to antique stores. I went to my normal one in Beech Grove but then discovered that two more antique stores were right next door! Yay! Below is what I purchased….

 

photo credit: Mrs. Shockley

 

Here is my antique shopping loot so far! The first item was this beautiful gold and marble corner stand. I saw this in the first antique store and it was called Y Shop Vintage and More. I really liked the staff. The original price was $175 but he let me buy it for $110. I was so happy that he dropped the price for me. 

 

 

 

 

photo credit: Mrs. Shockley 

 

The top of it is real marble and that stand is vintage. He told me the year but I have since forgotten it. I think it was around the 80s or 70s but I love it! I will be going to my downtown office today. 

Now let’s talk about my goodies on top…

 

 

I purchased the blue and white tureen bowl and the white and gold small Lenox vase as well. Both came from the same location. The bowl is made by Johnson and Brothers and was a whopping $4.95! Can you believe that? The white Lenox vase was only $8! Steals!

The blue and white ginger jar was from a third antique store that we found and this lady had shelves and shelves of blue and white! I wanted to take a picture but I didn’t want to disturb her. She was working as I was walking around. I only paid $18 for that and it is real porcleain. 

 

 

photo credit: Mrs. Shockley 

 

 

 

I wanted to share an upclose photo of the legs of the stand. I do love this. It’s unique and no one will have one like it. I did purchase some vintage earrings from the store that had the blue and white porcelain. 

 

 

Aren’t they lovely? They were only a few dollars each. I love all of them! I have already pictured them with some of my dresses and cardigans this upcoming season. I hope you all enjoyed this post. Maybe one day I will get up enough courage and do a vlog. I am still on the fence about doing one but we will see. Have a great Monday!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Do You Own…

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Good Morning,

It is Friday and it has been a very productive week for me at the office. I got my file organizational project done and I now feel like I can finally move forward with other things. Yay! Lauren starts school next week. The horror…. I am not even ready for this upcoming school year. There will be some changes for her. She now can leave school grounds for lunch and she will be driving. So exciting for her. 

I have my normal errands this weekend. I just want to sit. I feel like I need to but will that happen? Probably not but anyway I wanted to share this item with you all that I received from a friend years ago. I think I may have shared these on here before but does anyone own a set of these?

 

photo credit: Mrs. Shockley 

 

I think they are called Hospitality Snack Sets. Sometimes when I open my entertaining cabinet I pull these out and imagine what I would use them for. I think of a day in my sitting room with a friend just chatting away while we each have one of these in our laps or on the table eating sugar cookies and drinking tea.

 

 

They are beautiful pieces and I always feel bad for not using them when we have guests. But there have been moments when I want to pull them out but then I always have that “oh these might be too fancy” feeling. 

 

 

What do you guys think? Do you think these are too fancy?  Would you use them? I’ve got to find a way to use these this year. I hope I can figure something out soon. Let me know your thoughts below. Have a great weekend everyone! 

 

 

New Martha Stewart Show ~

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And it’s Monday. These weekends I tell you go too fast. My weekend was pretty good. On Saturday my husband and I had the day to ourselves so we just ran errands and had dinner. It was really nice. On Sunday I went to get my nails done and puttered around the house trying to get small chores done. I did find some beautiful roses at Costco. 

 

photo credit: Mrs. Shockley 

 

Aren’t they pretty? They smell wonderful too. I completely forgot to share a new show that I was watching last year and little this year. Did any of you hear about Martha’s new show called, “Martha Knows Best“? Martha started this show last year to give fans a behind-the-scenes look at her home projects while we were all required to quarantine. 

photo credit: Martha Moments on Instagram 

 

I really enjoyed the show. She still had celebrity guests (via Zoom) and would surprise average gardeners by calling them randomly and talking with them about their home projects. It was a really good show. 

 

photo credit: Martha Moments on Instgram 

 

I hope you guys are able to watch a few episodes online.  It is a great show (not surprised) and I think you would really enjoy all of the information and things that you could learn from our domestic queen. Let me know in the comments section below what show did you discover during the quarantine of 2020? 

Also, I wanted everyone to know that there is a coupon code available for the boutique. If you use JULY50 you will receive 50% off of your order. The only item that it cannot be used on is the new arrival. If you have asked to be added to my blog’s email list then you received that code on Saturday. I hope you all enjoy the discount! 

 

 

Have a great Monday!

 

Common Introduction Mistakes

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Good Morning,

Boy this week flew by. I don’t really have plans. Our daughter is going to Kings Island with her brother on Saturday so we will have the day to ourselves.  Mr. Shockley and I may have dinner and I may run my normal errands but we don’t have much planned. I do need to send my iRobot Roomba in for repair. It is not working right. I need little Alfred to help me keep the house in order. I do miss him and his daily vacuuming. 

Okay in today’s post I wanted to share more tips from my Emily Post Etiquette book. Have you ever screwed up an introduction with someone? You got nervous and asked something that you feel like you should not have? I have and love getting tips on what not to say and what to say. 

The first thing you should NOT do is look away. Eye contact is critical in an introduction. People who look over others’ shoulders and around the room while involved in introductions are saying by their actions that they really don’t care. 

I ALWAYS try to make sure that I am looking at someone when speaking to them. I want that person to feel like their presence is welcome and so is the conversation. 

 

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Next was making too-personal comments. This gets a LOT of people in trouble. Divorces, bereavements, job losses, illnesses, and/or rehab history are topics too intimate to raise during an introduction. I never ask personal questions. But I am always amazed at what people ask or feel like they have the right to know. 

The third is interrupting. When others are engaged in serious conversation, don’t break in to introduce someone else. Wait for a more convenient moment. 

 

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The fourth is deferring to one person at the expense of the other. Be sure that both parties are included in any conversation that follows an introduction.  The fifth tip is gushing. Most people are embarrassed by overly enthusiastic introductions. 

And the last tip is making someone wait to be introduced. When someone new joins a group already in conversation, put the conversation on hold and make the introduction. “Excuse me. Hi, Jane, nice to see you. Have you met Abby and Jack?”

I hope you all have found some value in these tips. It is always nice to have reminders. It is amazing how good manners do follow you. My husband went to the car wash recently and he was telling them that I was his wife and one of the team members said, “Your wife is always kind to us and we appreciate that”. 

People are watching. Have a great weekend!

 

 

Tips from Emily Posts Etiquette, page 18

 

 

 

 

A Dream Cottage

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Hello Everyone,

I had a pretty good weekend. My new dress for the boutique has arrived. I have decided to name it Frances. I hope you all enjoy it and will love it as much as I do. On Saturday I went to our outlet mall to do a little school shopping for Lauren. That turned out to be a bust! She hates shopping and it was really hard trying to find her things for school.

I did visit the Ann Taylor outlet store and the Coach outlet store I will share those items with you all later. I am now helping our daughter look at colleges. I can’t believe I am saying that. Oh my goodness. Life is happening too fast.

Alright now let’s get into today’s post. I have also been looking at the new Victoria magazine. Have you ever looked inside one of their issues and thought, “I sure do hope they put these pictures on the website” and when it happens I am always excited. In this month’s issue, I was really hoping that they were going to put this article’s photos on the website and they did!

 

photo credit: Mac Jamieson

 

Don’t you just love the chair? In the magazine, it talks about the owner Ann Monfore’s and how she collects child-size chairs. This is a child-size chair. I would love to see this in an adult size. Wouldn’t you? 

photo credit: Mac Jamieson

 

When I turned the page and saw this simply stunning dining room and I thought, “okay they better post this on the website”! This room has so much inspiration! This room is absolute perfection. The french doors in the distance, the 1850 French trumeau mirror and look at that solid wood table. They don’t make tables like they used to! 

 

photo credit: Mac Jamieson 

 

Okay, beach who? This would be a dream vacation spot for me! I would just plant my umbrella in the yard and have a picnic out there. The only thing this house would need is a swimming pool then I would probably never want to leave my house! 

I love how she designed the garden choosing boxwoods and blue hydrangeas my favorite! Another fun fact about this home is that it caught fire some years ago and was rebuilt in 2004. The owners wanted to replicate the previous home which was known as Seldom Inn. 

I would say two big thumbs up! They turned this into a wonderful retreat and beautiful home at the same time. It has the comforts of home yet houses beautiful antiques. I hope you all enjoyed this post and pick up an issue for yourself. It’s rare that Victoria magazine disappoints. 

 

 

 

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Etiquette Matters

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Good Morning Everyone,

Sighing…. it’s Friday and I have had a very busy week. This weekend I plan on taking our daughter to Marshalls and Ross to look for a few things for school. She will be starting her junior year soon. Goodness, I can’t believe it. I will also be uploading a new dress arrival! I am super excited about this dress. It is quite lovely and I hope you all enjoy it! 

 

In today’s post, I wanted to share something that I read in my new etiquette book recently. I wanted to share the paragraph called, “Why Etiquette Matters”. 

 

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“Etiquette is the fuel that powers relationships. Emily Post said, “Etiquette is the foundation upon which social structure is built. Every human contact is made smooth by etiquette, or awkward by lack of it. “Grounded as it is in timeless principles, etiquette enables us to face whatever the future may bring with strength of character and integrity. This ever-adaptive code of behavior also allows us to be flexible enough to respect those whose beliefs and traditions differ from our own.”

 

photo credit: Mrs. Shockley 

 

“Civility and courtesy, the outward expressions of human decency, are the proverbial glue that holds society together -qualities that are more important than ever in today’s complex and changing world.” 

I completely agree that when you are a civilized person you can have conversations with people who don’t share the same beliefs as you. With this chaotic world now it seems that people have zero tolerance for anyone different than them. It’s really bad. I know my beliefs are too conservative for some people but that is no reason to be cruel. I wish we could get back to respecting one another. I do pray that we can. 

I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend. I sent out my second email newsletter yesterday evening. Please check your spam folder to see if you received it. If you would like to be added to the list please send me an email on the Contact Page. 

 

 

tips and text from page 7 of Emily Post’s Etiquette, 19th Edition