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Daily Poise & Grace

Another end to another week. I had a few people reach out to me regarding my blog post on Wednesday. A lot of people are having “people issues”. At least I know that it is universal and not just me. 


But honestly not to get too religious about this but the Lord warned us about this. “Men would become lovers of themselves.” We all have to be so careful about this. It can happen very easily to any of us but it is also so fascinating to watch. It is happening right in front of our very eyes. 


I have noticed that on some days I don’t want to be gracious or kind at all. I get so sick of people being rude and me just standing there. I did try something recently. There were a few people at a few locations who I always spoke too and they never spoke back. I stopped speaking to them and I noticed that the last few times I came by they were looking at me waiting for me to speak and when I didn’t they looked lost. 


So then I came in the third or fourth time they spoke. I just said hello and kept going. Interesting right? People are funny and I believe that the Lord is taking me on some odd journey with this. I don’t know why or what this is but I am trusting that I will pass this test or learn whatever it is I need to learn. 

photo credit Carolyne Roehm
I know this for sure. I must continue on my journey of being pleasant, gracious, respectful, and firm. There have been some recent situations where I believe I was “pushed” to be firm and the Lord still honored me in those circumstances. 

I also believe that he wants me to continue on with my path of beauty otherwise he would not have given me the gift to love beautiful things. 




photo credit Micheile Henderson 



So let’s continue friends. It’s hard I know but let’s continue to love beautiful things, share beautiful things and be beautiful things. 


Enjoy your weekend!

My Elegance Tested ~ Part 2

Oh, the world is changing so much and the last several weeks have been really, really horrible. 






























So I will start with our homeless people here in my city. They have gotten really out of hand. They are really self-entitled (I hate to say that but it is true) and extremely aggressive. Now I have worked downtown for many years and I have never seen it this bad. My co-workers and I have had enough and we are not sure what to do. 

My first horrible incident was with a homeless woman who stood beside me at a stoplight. I was leaving Panera and she came and stood next to me. She tried to get my attention but I ignored her because most of our homeless people have been down here for YEARS and just continue to ask for money. 

Well, of course, she became irate and just began cussing me out. I continued to ignore her but she began to follow me and continued with her profanity. I turned and told her to go away but she just kept saying, “I can follow you if I want”. Oh boy…. so one of the Panera employees saw her following me and came running out of the store and told her to stop. She did but I had to grab the employee because they began to scream at her making the situation worse. 





photo credit Erol Ahmed 


The next time was a few weeks ago and I was in my car. Our city has shut down numerous highways and roads due to construction so everyone is upset and impatient. I was simply turning out of my parking lot trying to go home. Now because the traffic was so bad I could not turn completely turn into my lane so some of my vehicle was left into oncoming traffic. No big deal the individuals on the other side simply went around me. Well, there was a man in the OPPOSITE lane of me having a fit because my car was left into oncoming traffic. 

Here is the thing I was not in his lane, I was not turning in front of him and what I was doing did not in any way hinder him from moving forward. So he began screaming cuss words at me and I thought are you serious? I am not even in your lane buddy. I did not scream back but just waved him off. Well, he became even more ballistic because I was dismissing him and screamed even more. What was funny was that he did all of that yelling then he cut off some people and cut through the Arby’s parking lot! You can’t be serious! 

Here he was trying to yell at me for what he believed was a traffic violation but then committed his own. Wow… I say all of that to say this. The world is changing and some days you feel helpless. Not only is it people around you but it’s your family and co-workers too.





photo credit: Guillaume Lorain 


I wanted to scream at both individuals in both of these cases but I didn’t. I maintained a quiet spirit and kept my dignity. It is not always easy but I pray constantly. I don’t want to let people like that win. I always tell myself, “you will never see this person again in about 10 minutes”. Maintain, maintain. 

Now with co-workers and families, it’s harder and tricker. But during those times I weigh my relationship with that person and if I need to continue it. In the work area, I in most cases ignore classless co-workers and that bothers them but they get my point.  

I hope sharing these stories inspires you and lets you know that you are not alone. Please share your “elegance tested” stories below. I would love to hear how you all rise above it!

If you wish to read my first post about being tested, you may view it here and about my classless co-worker (who is still classless) you may read that here.


Have a great Wednesday and remember to rise above it!

Inspiring Details

Happy Monday Morning!


I am in the comfort of my own home today. It’s Labor Day and a great day to enjoy being at home. Love having these three-day weekends. It’s a time to get caught up, re-organize at home, and to sneak in some shopping. I found some beautiful scarves at H&M. I can’t wait to wear them soon.


Time for a little home inspiration. Have you ever found a pin on Pinterest and could not find the source? Always irritating but I finally found the source for one of my favorite pins. Once I found it, it was like going down a rabbit hole. I could not leave the website and found many more articles to read.


I’m talking about Traditional Home Magazine and this glamorous 1970’s Toronto home that was “frenchified” by designer Colette van de Thillart.

photo credit: Colette van den Thillart.com
Oh my… can I have the chairs….please? Now, these chairs are antique wood framed. Sighing… love, love, and the blue and white print. Need I say more?

photo credit: Colette van den Thillart.com


Fresh flowers elevate any room. 

photo credit: Colette van den Thillart.com



The kitchen is very appealing as well. Love the valance and sink skirt. The pattern and dark colors help break up all the white. 
photo credit: Colette van den Thillart.com


Now I am normally a crystal chandelier kind of girl but this over-sized lantern by Vaughan has been thinking twice. Isn’t that elegant? 

photo credit: Colette van den Thillart.com



You guys know that I love this room. The paint color? But of course. Love the lilac paint color and creamy color hues of the room. I only dream of having a sitting area like this in my bedroom. 


photo credit: Colette van den Thillart.com



The sitting area in the room. A dream….

photo credit: Colette van den Thillart.com



And this is the guest bedroom! How fantastic! I would love to be able to have a beautiful guest bedroom such as this! Love the bedspread. It’s by Gluckstein. 


And finally here is the designer herself. Is anyone else trying to figure out where to find this umbrella? Wow!
photo credit: Colette van den Thillart.com


I hope you all enjoyed this beautiful and inspiring home tour. If you wish to read the original article you may do so here. I hope you all enjoy your Monday!

(photos via Traditional Home. com)

Things I Love: Climbing Roses

It is Friday and the month of August is winding down. I can’t believe it! Goodness, gracious! Next week will be time to share my monthly favorites already. I have a few to share and really enjoyed this month’s items. 

I am so excited you guys. You want to know why? It’s because this weekend’s low is going to be in the ’50s! Oh yeah! My husband has a fit when I get excited about 50-degree weather. I love my crisp morning air walks to my office. It is the best thing ever to me. I so love wearing my skirts, still being bare-legged and wearing one of my gorgeous pink blush scarfs. It is so chic!

Sighing…. it is just bliss to me. So today I wanted to share a little favorite of mine. Climbing roses…. aren’t they just like heaven?








I have always wanted climbing roses on my home but my husband gives me all of these excuses as to why they are bad for the house. I don’t even remember what the excuses were. Maybe it’s because I ignore him when he tries to ruin my beauty ideas. 

Wouldn’t you love to have something like this embracing your home? I know I would. The vines, the scent….. it’s just glorious.





I have always wanted a backyard gazebo or some sort of sunroom in my backyard. I would even settle for having climbing roses on my garage. I just want them! 

Well as always thanks for reading and I hope that you enjoy your weekend. I hope these 50-degree lows stick around for a few days. 

Bonjour!




Elegance in Partnerships

Good Morning Everyone!


Well, this was an interesting paragraph that I came across in the English Etiquette book, it was called Rules for Good Partnerships at Home”. I had to share these tips on today’s blog post. I know we could all use some help in those marriages because sometimes wanting to live in order and being able to accomplish it with a spouse that is different from you can be challenging. 


photo credit: The Knot.com





The first tip is…


All decisions made by the partnership are final, and not to be undermined by subordinates. These rules stay in place even if one partner is out of the picture temporarily. 


(My husband and I established with the children when they were very young)






Second…


Children must be respectful to both parents and not try to win one over in order to change the opinion of the other. 






Third…


Parents must demonstrate respect for their partner in front of their children. There is to be no badmouthing or complaining about their spouse in front of them. 


(This one can be hard. Because sometimes I just want to beat my husband for not doing something that I asked him to do 6 years ago)


Fourth…


Parents must ensure that they have sufficient “scared time”. This means a set time in which children must be in bed so that parents can relax alone. Children are not permitted in the bedroom of the parents, or for cuddles on the sofa DURING THIS TIME. 






And lastly,


Allow the love for your partner to be seen in front of the children. Kiss, compliment and communicate. You are the models for your children’s future relationships. Set a good example.


Great tips! Most of these my husband and I do pretty well but I’m telling you I have wanted to slap him upside his head for not doing something. Especially when I have waited for YEARS! 


I hope that you all enjoyed these tips from author Alena K. Pettitt and pick up her book!










(photos via Pinterest, tips via The English Etiquette)













Silly Worries

Good Monday Morning,
I hope you all had a wonderful weekend. My husband and I are gearing up to drop my step-son off at college this week. I can’t believe it seriously. I will be worrying about everything for him. But I am trying to have a little faith in his new adventure. 


Worries are apart of life.  I wish they weren’t but I am trying to learn to master my mind and not let silly things worry me. That’s another reason why I wanted to share this article that I found on Real Simple


























It’s called “Do You Need to Worry about these 12 Health Symptoms”? I wanted to share a few from the list that I know that I worried about at some point or another. 




1) Okay, chronic headaches. Yes, I am one of the idiots that thought, “well could this be a brain tumor”? Stupid right? Well the doctor from the article said this…


“Headaches alone don’t make me look for a brain tumor,” says neurologist MaryAnn Mays, a staff physician at the Headache Center at the Cleveland Clinic. A brain tumor would typically involve symptoms such as sudden muscle weakness, headaches that wake you from sleep, numbness, personality changes, lack of coordination, vomiting, and changes in vision, hearing, and speech.








2) Breast pain
Of course, I think it’s breast cancer which is horrible. But the oncologist said this…


“Breast pain, in isolation, is almost never cancer,” says oncologist Richard Elledge, an associate professor of medicine at the Breast Center at the Baylor College of Medicine, in Houston. “You don’t need to worry,” he says, “unless you have symptoms, such as new lumps, that don’t come and go with menstruation; changes in the color or some other appearance of the skin over the breasts; or bloody discharge from the nipples.”


Whew…..


























3) Chest pain
I couldn’t tell you how many times I have called my doctor about this in the past. But the cardiologist said this…


Heart attacks are relatively rare in people under the age of 45. The average age among women for a first heart attack is 70. Because getting treatment within one hour of a heart attack increases the survival rate, experts say not to ignore intense chest pain that lasts for more than five minutes. “I’ve had female patients as young as 32 have heart attacks,” says cardiologist Richard Stein, the director of preventive cardiology at Beth Israel Medical Center, in New York City. If the pain lasts for more than five minutes, call 911.


and lastly


4) A New Mole, Pigmented Skin Growth or Spot
Since my mother in law found skin cancer on her about 2 years ago, I have been on high alert ever since. But what the dermatologist says is…


A harmless mole, a seborrheic keratosis (a wartlike growth common in people over 40), or an age spot. Skin is constantly changing, in part due to sun exposure. Many changes are harmless, but “if you’re over 30, take new moles seriously,” says Deborah Sarnoff, M.D., a professor of dermatology at the New York University School of Medicine. Do monthly self-exams and get a skin-cancer check from a dermatologist every three years if you’re between the ages of 20 and 40 and annually after age 40. The ABCDE warning signs for skin cancer are a mole or a spot that is asymmetrical, has an irregular border, is unevenly colored (or has patches of red, white, or blue), has a diameter wider than a quarter-inch, or seems to be evolving.




photo credit: Sepideh Doost





Well, this article sure did calm some of my nerves down. I hope it did the same for you. Please finished reading the rest of the article. There are more facts and reality checks that we all need. 




Thanks for reading!






(article from Real Simple.com)







Teaching Elegance & Homekeeping

Well, a new journey has begun with my daughter. As most of you have heard she has started high school! That means that she is getting closer to moving out and beginning her own journey as a woman. 








I have been working with my daughter each year trying to teach her ways to clean, cook, and take care of herself. Last year we worked on the laundry. I taught her how to separate clothes, how to work the washer and dryer, and how to properly fold. 





















Photo by Dan Gold on Unsplash



She was in 8th grade and I felt like that was the time to teach her that. We also worked on how to make pasta. She likes rigatoni with shredded cheese so I taught her how to make that in addition to making steam rice, roast chicken, and cleaning our rice cooker. 



Trying to find the right moments and age to teach her things is difficult. You can try to teach your children everything under the sun when they are 7 or 8 but are they absorbing it? I have learned that each child has their own way of learning and walk by their own course. 


I shared on my YouTube channel that I am reading a book called The English Etiquette. It’s been a wonderful read with lots of tips and hints on etiquette at home and at work. I am still in the first part of the book and author Alena Pettitt gave a list of items that your teenagers should be able to do while they are in high school. I wanted to share that list.



* Operating a vacuum cleaner


* Changing bed-sheets


* Replenishing bathroom consumables


* Dividing laundry and operating a washing machine on a basic wash cycle


* Correctly filling and emptying the dishwasher


* Making a cup of tea


* Buttering toast


* Making a sandwich


* Preparing a simple hot meal such as beans or fried egg on toast. (An English meal I presume, so I am working on pancakes with my daughter)


* Preparing vegetables


* Obtain profound knowledge and awareness of personal (we worked on shaving last year) and household hygiene (I taught her how to clean her bathroom)


* Taking out the rubbish and replacing bin bags


* Going to the local shop and confidently buying items for the household from a basic list (I do this every week and she sees me)


And lastly


* Administering basic First Aid and responding calmly and efficiently in an emergency (The school taught this last year but may need to rehearse this at home)

I thought this was a great list! If anything you can glean some ideas from it. I love it! Teaching our children and how to live well is huge. Especially now in this world today, everything is just handed to them. Learning to work and take care of your home can give you a sense of pride and order. Something that is greatly missing today. I have some friends who can’t cook or clean and I wonder all the time how they get through life.




Keeping a beautiful home is one of the greatest jobs on earth to me. I love walking into my home each evening and seeing my beautiful bouquets, starting my dinner for the night, and folding a basket of laundry while watching one of my favorite movies. Your home doesn’t have to be big and you don’t have to have a lot of money just a willing heart. Teach your children and lead. 



Thanks for reading!









(photos via Pinterest & Mrs. Shockley)