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My Sitting Room Refresh

February 6, 2025/in Home Décor /by mrs.sshockley

Good Morning Friends!

How is everyone doing? I am repeating my goals in my mind and I recently read this quote from James Clear…..

“People can sometimes be held hostage by their expectations. They have a dream of something they would like to achieve or a path they intend to follow, but their mindset falls apart when things don’t work out how they had hoped.

The key is to reach for an extremely high bar, but to be adaptable enough to reframe the failures, disappointments, and defeats into fuel for the next thing. Give your best effort, but no matter how it works out, trust that life will be good for you. Focus on how the world is working with you, not against you.

Everything you are given is material for the next move. Everything.”

I just keep asking the Lord to guide me. I get sent this nuggets every time.

Well my FBMP shopping has not slowed down. I am just on this journey where I want to add better furniture pieces to my home and why not. I have been wanting to change things up for so long and I am now unafraid to try things. You all know that I love a good room refresh and this time I decided to change up my sitting room.

The photo on the left is one version of my sitting room. I believe this was taken in 2019 or maybe 2018. I was starting to feel like it looked “too yellow”. I had the cream, fuzzy rug which was suppose to be cream but it looked yellow. I also had “cream” curtains which looked yellow as well. I wanted to add some fresh whites to my sitting room. The photo on the right is what it currently looks like right now since I have refreshed it.

I purchased the new rug from Amazon. I love the design and color and believe it fits the room perfectly. The rug is from influencer My Texas Home. I have been wanting one of these for some time now. I also got new pillows from HomeGoods. White ones of course to brighten up and freshen up the couch.

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The space look so different and I am here for it! It really updated the “shades” in my sitting room and gave it a clean look. I also got new curtains from HomeGoods. They are white as well and no longer have that yellow look to them.

Can you see something else? Well for one thing I got two new lamps instead of one. I had one lamp in this room for 13 years and decided that two lamps would balance the room.

I got KING CORBRA lamps! I could not believe it myself. I could not understand why I was attracted to these lamps. My husband and I were walking around HomeGoods when I saw these and I said, “Those are sharp”! My husband then turned and looked at me with astonishment and said, “are you serious”? I then grabbed my mouth because I could not believe that came out of it!

I looked at him with such confusion because I could not make sense of it but I LOVED them! I then spent the next 45 minutes in anguish trying to figure out why I wanted them. We “googled” the meaning of King Cobra because I was so worried if this meant something about my faith. I had all kinds of crazy thoughts, but do you know what the meaning of King Cobra is? It means transformation, wisdom, royalty, strength, rebirth, and knowing oneself better. WOW! The two meanings that stuck out to me were transformation and rebirth as I am going through a transition in my life and change. Plus, the girl who does my nails just told me that it is the year of the snake! Can you believe that! Wow! Any way I do love my king cobra lamps and no longer have regrets. They did come with a black snakeskin lamp shade but I thought white would look better with my decor and room.

I also redid my floral arrangement. This arrangement was on my table next to my couch in a gold old vase and needed to be refresh so I got rid of the gold vase and decided to use my giant blue and white ginger vase, and it looks so much better.

A new candle was also added to the space. I normally don’t buy candles at Target, but I think this is becoming one of my favorites. If you love a beautiful floral candle, then this candle by Theshold called sunflower and ivy will certainly please you. I am already going to order more! It’s lovely and comes in this beautiful canister.

This was not a part of the sitting room refresh but I purchased this from T.J. Maxx. I needed a new lamp for my dresser in our bedroom and saw this lovely swan lamp there. I could not leave it. It looks stunning on my vanity.

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Well, I will be honest. I am feeling much better being in my sitting room and spending time in it. I was not using the room for months because I was just so unhappy with it. Now I look forward to my “rest mornings”. It’s when I go down to that room grab my At Home in the Garden book and just enjoy the space. It is such a treat in the early mornings.

FBMP has been such a wonderful tool for me to purchase pieces and curate my home. I now have my search fine tuned and don’t have a problem looking for items. If you want to see my other blog posts regarding my past searches you may read them here.

Let me know in the comments below what your thoughts are. Have a great week!

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January Favorites ~ 2025

January 23, 2025/in Monthly Favorites /by mrs.sshockley

Hello Friends,

It was so nice having a nice long weekend. I so needed it. I spent the weekend going thru old paperwork and getting it ready for shredding. I just learned last week that I was suggested to our learning facility to be an instructor for the upcoming year. So that means that I will be on a panel teaching other paralegals later this year. I will also be doing a virtual training in April! I am so excited for these new opportunities and extremely nervous. I also have another office to evaluate this year in Boston and a potential training in Washington. We will see how things go.

You will also notice some items have begun to vanish from the boutique. I did an inventory check this weekend and remove some things. I have some different ideas this year for inventory so we will see what I come up with. I may be taking a break from dresses and just focus on accessories. Let me know in the comments below what items you would like to see in the boutique this year.

Now let’s move on to some favorites.

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First is my new devotional that I ordered from Amazon. This was a suggestion from the late Dr. Charles Stanely. I have been listening to him for years and read his recent book Living the Extraordinary Life -Nine Principles to Discover it. In this book Dr. Stanley mentioned My Utmost for His Highest devotion written by Oswald Chambers. It is so good and really challenges one’s faith. I read this passage in it this week… My best for his glory. At first, the call comes gently. Then it grows louder, until finally God produces a crisis in our lives that demands we make a choice. For or against, yes or no; stay or go.

There was another devotional that has stuck with me for months now. It is called the Law of Antagonism. The law if antagonism means that in order to stay healthy, I have to fight. Health is a kind of balance between things that would harm me and my ability to resist them. Physical health occurs when there is a balance between my body and those things in the external world that are designed to put me to death. If I have enough vitality, enough fighting power, I will produce a healthy balance.

If you are a person that enjoys devotionals then I would HIGHLY recommend this book!

My second is the Fresh Balsam candle from Bath & Body Works. This candle gives such a clean and fresh pine scent. It has been perfect to start off my year and I love smelling it in my home. I also saw this lovely blue and white teapot plugin. I had to grab one!

Speaking of blue and white I did not stop my hunt for the Love Shack Fancy Stanley cup. I did find this in August of last year but could not share it because I was getting one for our daughter in law for Christmas and I did not want to give up my gift idea! I found mine and purchased it from Poshmark. They are sold in various places. Just make sure that you have the Stanley stamp on the bottom, and it comes with a box and the straw with a bow. I heard that there are some fake ones out there.

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Fourth on my list is this glorious brand. Now of course I learned about Holland Cooper from the British influencer Lydia Millen and loved them immediately. I mean can we talk about the super elegant branding? The rich colors? It’s stunning. I decided to take a leap and order my first candle from them. Then I could not resist the Chelesa Emerald Green makeup bag! When Lydia shared this on a video I was foaming at the mouth. It is so elegant and every time I pull it out to use it I stare at it. It is now on sale. It’s still a little expensive but it’s a wonderful piece for the elegant wardrobe that you want to build.

Don’t you just love a good antique find? I know I do! I found this while at a friend’s house. She mentioned this antique store to me, and I thought, well okay, I’ll take a look! I ended up finding this beautiful French blue armchair. Score! I love it and have moved it to my office downtown. It looks wonderful!

In addition to adding my new chair to my office and purchased this gorgeous cashmere scarf from Amazon and it is double sided. It is a stunning emerald green color and I have gotten lots of compliments on it. I am thinking about going back and ordering it in the khaki.

And lastly on my list is this classy video from Parisian Vibe where photographer and artist Jamie Beck demonstrates how to tie a scarf or “foulard”. I love that word. This video is the epitome of elegance, and you will enjoy the scarf techniques from Jamie, the Hermes scarves that she wears, and the home! It’s a beautiful video.

I hope you all enjoy my monthly favorites as usual! Please let me know in the comments below if there are things that you would like to see in the boutique and have a great week!

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Word of the Year ~ 2025

January 16, 2025/7 Comments/in Elegant Living, Inspiring Posts /by mrs.sshockley

Good Morning!

It’s still cold but manageable. I do miss my morning walks. I need them now since I am seeing so many things in the news. My goodness… California. I didn’t realize that the fires were that bad until this weekend when I actually got a chance to sit and watch the news. My goodness… North Carolina is still struggling from the hurricane. So many things Lord, so many. My mornings walks would always help be sort things out in my mind. I am back on my elliptical for the next few months because the mornings are so cold here.

Now as you can see from my title of this blog post I will be sharing my word of the year. For me it is never just one word. My words are always phrases. It always takes me a few days before the end of the year to get my phrase, but it usually comes because of some life event. This year it came because of a recent activity that I did with a therapist. I may share that later, but my word of the year or phrase of the year is “be present”.

Now I catch myself and I have been doing this most of my life, thinking about the future or the past. Those thoughts in most cases provided a distraction from something that I was dealing with at the moment. Now my goal is to be present. In happiness, and sadness. Be present!

I have also started my new planner. Jennifer from the Daily Connoisseur recently shared her planners. I am normally a Day Designer kind of girl but this year I decided to try a new planner called Planned & Proper.

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This planner is exceptional! I was not sure how it was going to work for me, but it is a perfect fit for my life! I had my name added to the first page, so personalization is an option. The third page is your word of the year page! You write it down along with your thoughts. There are pages for plans or projects, book goals, and brainstorming your big ideas. The daily format is a winner. It provides a section for your top 3 priorities, to-do list, current goals for the day, a timeline, self-care section and daily gratitude. I mean each day has those items for you to jot down!

This planner has so much! There is a body & wellness page for the year, a place for you to map out your goals for your social life and friendship goals, career and business, financial, home and family, spiritual and creativity! It truly forces you to think about your life for the year. Using this planner and brainstorming about your life will take a few days. It’s not some basic planner that you can just jot down a few things. It really does encourage you to think big about your year in detail. It took me about 2 days to fill out my lists for the year and now I just keep going back to them to keep myself on track.

Let me know in the comments section below what planner you are using and if you have already tried this planner. Also share you word of the year. I think this maybe a repurchase for me next year!

Enjoy your week!

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New Holiday Recipes

January 7, 2025/3 Comments/in Recipes /by mrs.sshockley

Hello Friends,

We had a dumping of snow this week! Finally! It usually arrives right after Christmas for us, and it is as cold as can be! Lauren is back on campus; my Christmas decor is neatly packed away and I am ready for a home refresh. As I begin my year, I begin to think about what goals I want to accomplish and things I would like to complete this year. I am already dreaming about how I am going to change rooms around when Lauren leaves the nest. Right now, my office is in the loft. If we stay in this house, I want to move my office into Lauren’s room and turn the loft into a study. I would love a study! A room with built in bookcases for my books and a giant table in the center for me to sit read, spread out, burn a candle, and have a cup of tea. I will be changing the boy’s old room into a guest room. I am on the hunt for a queen size bed. We will see.

Anyway, the holidays are over, and I did try a few new things for my menu. I wanted to share those recipes. What worked and what didn’t.

photo credit: Mrs. Shockley

For Thanksgiving, I tried two new recipes. First was this appetizer called the French Quarter Cheese Spread. My friend Angela made this at one of our evening Guild meetings and it stopped us in our tracks! I had never heard of it before and never tried it. It was so good. It had a beautiful combination of sweet and savory and the salty crackers gave it the perfect crunch! It’s lovely with a glass of wine. Now did my family love it? No, not really but I didn’t care. My husband and daughter don’t really have sophisticated food palates.

The second new recipe that I tried for Thanksgiving was a pear salad. I had a craving for a salad for Thanksgiving so I “googled” fall salads and a list came up. This salad stuck out to me. I loved the idea of having pumpkin seeds, blue cheese, and roasted pears. I wanted something fresh and crisp. Something that was not so heavy on the stomach. Now my family (Lauren and my husband) don’t eat salads. Again, they don’t have great eating palates, but I wanted to add it any way. My stepsons’ wife and girlfriend took bites out of the pears and said, “those are good”, so hearing that made me happy. I loved them so much I ended up making a second batch of the pears. Soo good! Overall, I got a good response.

My last new recipe was sweet potato casserole. Now I decided to make this for our Christmas Eve dinner because I host additional people at this dinner. I wanted to have more people who would be willing to try my dish. It was very simple to make, and I love sweet potatoes. The creaminess from the mixture and the crunch from the pecans was wonderful. The one item that I will change will be using dark brown sugar instead of light. I love the taste of dark brown sugar! I believe that the molasses from the dark brown sugar would give it a more earthy taste. I loved the dish and so did my other guests. We usually have the same items but this year I wanted to add a few new dishes to my list and I am glad that I tried. This upcoming holiday season I might add a few new things so we will see.

Let me know in the comments below if you have tried any of these! Have a great week, stay warm!

Winter Self Care Favorites

January 1, 2025/2 Comments/in Beauty & Health /by mrs.sshockley

Hello 2025!

Have you made your resolutions yet? I have started my lists for goals that is for sure and will be sharing that soon. We spent a quite evening at home as usual celebrating the new year. I did visit a new consignment shop! I am over the moon about it. Oh my goodness, it is not filled with junk! So happy. It’s called Consigned by Design and they have two locations. I came out with a few things but have other furniture pieces on my radar.

It’s still warm here in Indy and I have a feeling that in February and March it will get really cold. It always does. Around this time, I normally suffer from dry skin and also the winter blues. I am trying to embrace my seasons (thanks to Lydia Millien’s book Evergreen) and enjoy the chapters of life that I am in. With that being said I wanted to share some winter skin and self-care favorites for this year.

photo credits: Mrs. Shockley

My first favorite and new discovery is the Mario Badescu mango and coconut lip mask. What a great find! I love it! Lip conditioners are always hard for me, and I am so glad that I found this and enjoy using it. I also purchased this trio of lip balms from Amazon as well. I have also been using this Sallen Hansen cuticle massage cream. It has a very clean scent to it and has been a hero to my hands and cuticles this winter.

For feet this best thing that I have used to soften my heels is Vaseline! It works and nothing works like it. If you have not tried it, you should. Just rub some on your clean feet before going to bed especially those heels. Put on some socks and look at the difference in the morning. If your heels are really bad, then it may take a few nights and a few applications, but I am telling you it works!

Before After- 3 hours later

I did not want to post these on here, but I wanted to give an honest review about my recent experience with the Biodance (viral) Bio-Collegen mask. I did not know that they were viral until after I purchased them and saw all of the reviews. Now I love an overnight mask, but I have never tried anything like this before. I was so nervous, but it was a wonderful experience! The mask feels so good sitting on your face and was comfortable to wear. I even fell asleep with it on. My husband woke me up to take off the remaining sheets. The first photo was after putting it on and the second photo was about 3 1/2 hours later. Most of the mask had disappeared delivering active ingredients into my skin. I then tried the Biodance Hydro Cera-nol Moisturizing Mask. All I can say is… order one! It’s the ultimate self-care mask! Perfect for the winter.

Next up is a purchase that I have been wanting to make for a long time but was not sure. I have been wanting a neck massager but for the most part they never worked. One of our insurance reps brought this in and I tried it and oh my word! It has been on my radar ever since. This is the Mirakel Neck Massager, and it works my friends. I absolutely love it! Most people get the back massage machines, but I am a neck person because of sitting at the computer all day. I have used this SEVERAL times already. It hits that spot for me. It’s a wonderful self-care evening treat.

The last self-care night item for me is a special treat. I love a hot cup of green tea or chamomile. I recently found this beautiful vintage dish at the antique store and could not resist putting some of my favorite Dove chocolates in it for a self-care night. Self-care is not only treatments but beauty as well.

I hope that you all are inspired to take some time for yourself this year. Crave out the hour or two hours just to calm down and have a moment. Life has a way of beating up on you and I am learning to take time for me. Enjoy my video as well!

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December Favorites ~ 2024

December 26, 2024/2 Comments/in Monthly Favorites /by mrs.sshockley

Good Morning and Merry Christmas to you all!

It is the end of 2024. Can you all believe it? Wow… it has really flown by. I think that I have my “phrase or word of the year” for 2025, and I am making a list of home goals, personal goals, and career goals for 2025.

The one thing that I am really trying to do is to keep things in perspective. And I don’t want to absorbed other people’s issues, dramas, and problems. That list of responses from Dr. Witte is putting me on the path to learning how to respond to things in my life. I hope you all can use those responses.

Now this week will be filled with enjoying my time off and family. Lauren and I attended the Nutcracker this year and we went to the L.S. Ayres Tea Room as well. I love keeping our family Christmas traditions.

Now here are my favorites for the last month of 2024!

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First on my list have been the holiday shoes this season! Now I took my time this year and decided to curate a collection where I loved and enjoyed wearing every pair. I have already shared my red satin shoes in my November favorites which have been a season hit. I could not resist a second pair so I went back for the black ones and then I purchased these velvet bow slingbacks from Ann Taylor Loft and lastly these gorgeous, sparkly bow pair of pumps from J. Crew.

Second on my list are more holiday fashion finds. I wore this comfortable but fantastic red skirt from Old Navy to two parties this season and this satin blouse from Old Navy as well. I was inspired by Nathan Rollinson and Nicolas Fairford in their autumn video to buy some long leather gloves for the winter season. I found these stunning leather gloves on Amazon! They are so good! I really need a second pair in brown.

My love for accessories continues. I ordered this bandana scarf from Zara. Sorry but it is now sold out so I cannot share it. I also added some new bands to my wedding set. Inspired by Lydia Millien, I decided to add some crown inspired bands to my set. The compliments have been non-stop! I do love the look!

My fourth favorite was a new store discovery! While taking the kids ice skating (photo on the right), I got to visit some shops that were around the Carmel Chriskindlmarkt and one of them was called Addendum. It was a fantastic upscale gift shop. They carried lots of elegant items that I only get to see online. I will be adding that to my list for a future visit soon. The other photo is a rare photo of us as a family going ice skating. It is me, my husband, our daughter Lauren, son Ely and his girlfriend Faith.

Next on my list is this photo of me earlier this year at the Guild Luncheon. It is me with my friend Kathy and Shannon. I love it so much. It shows the importance of friendship and spending time together. As I get older, I am learning that “it is not good for man to be alone”. Is that not in the Bible? Spending time with people is so important and I don’t want to lose that.

I hope that you all enjoy your holiday season. I hope that you got to see my videos on YouTube. I recorded two “shorts” of me discussing a question and response from Dr. Witte.

Enjoy your week!

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