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Lessons People Learn too Late in Life

 

Good Morning,

I wanted to say Happy Thanksgiving to everyone! I have to host this year and just want to keep things simple. I will be making my usual dishes. My herb roasted turkey, fruit and nut dressing, homemade mashed potatoes and of course the two new additions, cranberry sauce and caramel cake. I will be making something new on Thanksgiving morning and that will be banana bread. It’s been years since I have made it and wanted to give it a try. We plan on having just our kids and my cousin will be stopping by. I hope you all enjoy the holiday!

And of course, with the holidays approaching dealing with family and friends can be difficult so I did want to share some lessons that I found on Instagram. One of the interior designers that I follow shared this on his page a few weeks ago and I thought it might be helpful to you all as well. 

It’s called 8 Lessons People Learn too Late in Life…

  1. Important people come and go, and that’s okay. Unfortunately, the most important people in your life can become strangers overnight. Fortunately, total strangers can become the most important people in your life overnight. This process hurts, but if accepted, it serves to improve the quality and suitability of the people in your life. 

 

Photo credit: Habitually Chic via Pinterest 

2) Your diet isn’t just what you eat. As you get older you realize that your diet isn’t just what you eat, it’s what you watch, what you read, who you follow and who you spend your time with. So if your goal is to have a healthier mind, you have to start by removing all the junk from your diet. 

3) You have to let people down to be happy. You and your mental health are more important than you career, more money, other people’s opinions, that event you said you would attend, your partner’s mood and your family’s wishes. If taking care of yourself means letting someone down, then let someone down. Your self-love must always be stronger than your desire to be loved by others. 

4) Never let rejection lead to self-rejection. A person who has experienced rejection fears rejection, and a person that fears rejection tends to push or run away before they can be rejected. In their subconscious mind they have avoided rejection. In reality they’ve been rejected again this time by themselves. 

 

 

photo credit: Carolyn Roehem

 

5) Own your responsibilities, own your future. You’re not responsible for your trauma but you are responsible for breaking the cycle and not hurting more people because of what happened to you. You will never control your future if you let your present be controlled by your past. What happened yesterday may not be your responsibility, but how you behave today is. 

6) Quality over quantity. Life is about quality, not quantity. One quality friend gives you more than 100 acquaintances. One quality relationship gives you more than 100 flings. One quality experience gives you more than 100 drunken nights. 

7) Fairytales will make you unhappy. Obsessing over the things that society said you’re “supposed to do” will kill your happiness. Don’t listen to the fake fairytales of how your life is suppose to be going. You don’t have to go to university at 18, or get a job at 21, or buy a house at 25, or get married at 30, or have kids at 35.  Everyone is different, and your path to happiness will be too. 

8) Fun is yours. If you want to enjoy your life, don’t subscribe to other people’s definition of “fun”. Fun doesn’t have to mean drinking, partying and socializing. Fun can be a night in alone, getting lost in a book, a deep conversation, a walk, creating art, playing music or doing work that you love. Your fun belongs to you, make sure you define it. 

I hope you all enjoyed these lessons, honestly, they are reminders for some of us. I know sometimes I have to be reminded of these that I don’t have to do. It is hard sometimes. Really hard. But I will say knowing who you are what your goals are can help keep you grounded.

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving and the boutique is having a Black Friday Sale! Use code blackfriday22 and get 15% off of everything! That does include clearance items! Enjoy!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gallery on 16th ~ New Indy Discovery

 

 

Good Morning,

I am pooped! Yesterday I did not leave the house. I worked on getting my house decorated for Christmas! I am worn out, but it is done. I will be going to Hobby Lobby and the At Home store this weekend for new decorations. I am going to be getting rid of a lot of mine. I purchased a bunch from Walmart over the years, and they are just so cheap. Nothing wrong with Walmart but I am just ready for some wonderful new, fresh Christmas decor, and some substantial ornaments. I’ll share what I find soon. On with a new local restaurant discovery….

It’s amazing how my husband and I keep discovering new things about our city. He recently found a new restaurant to go and have lunch at. It was called Gallery on 16th

 

photo credits: Mrs. Shockley 

 

My husband found this place while he and his crew were working in the area. Now it is not my taste in decor but it is quite lovely and the staff was incredibly nice!

 

 

Now as soon as you walk in they have their pastries on display. Everything has a Laduree feel to it. They are beautiful displayed and look well made.

 

 

We sat down and looked at the menu. I looked around. The restaurant had a bit of a minimalist look to it. Not a lot of bright colors, concrete floors, but simple and a bit chic. 

 

 

photo credits: Mrs. Shockley 

 

 

I ordered the artichoke omelette. It had roasted artichokes, parmesan, arugula, charred lemon, and lemon bechamel. It was so creamy and very delicious! 

 

 

 

I wasn’t sure if I was going to order a pastry or not but my husband talked me into it. I tried this plated pastry. I don’t remember the name but it was quite delicious. My husband and I split it.

It’s a wonderful place to have a light and delicious lunch and if you are local you should go and check it out! I hope you enjoyed this new restaurant find and the boutique has a new arrival! The Eleanor Lace Midi is my newest dress for this holiday season. It is a beautiful deep burgundy color and has roses laced on the entire dress! It’s lovely!

 

 

Seeking the Arts ~ The Claude Monet Exhibit

 

 

Happy Friday!

It is Veterans Day and of course I want to thank everyone who has served this country. I have shared this before but my husband is one of them. Thank you! I don’t have to be in the office today so I booked a few things to get done. Last night my group the Guild had a Wine and Design Event. It was a lot of fun! We got to meet the new designers for the upcoming Decorator’s Showhouse!  We got to see their plans for the room that they are assigned. It’s really exciting! Our Christmas luncheon will be coming up soon as well as the fashion show! I’ll try to share photos if I can. Now on to my most recent “seek the arts” adventure. 

During fall break we went to Nashville and visited a few places. What we also did was take Lauren to the Monet Art Exhibit at Newfields

 

photo credits: Mrs. Shockley

 

The exhibit transported you to 19th century Paris and displayed the works of Monet, Pissarro, Renoir, and Cezanne. The exhibit had music which was set to include Europe’s most renowned composers! 

 

 

 

 

I found a seat and just enjoyed the exhibit. I believe this was “Woman with a Parasol” from 1875. 

 

 

photo credits: Mrs. Shockley 

 

I believe this is the “Water Lily Pond” from 1900. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I only took a few photos. I wanted to pay attention and enjoy the moment. It was a pretty long presentation, and it also displayed the works of the other artists. Lauren and I both love the water lily piece. There are a few more that I love from Monet and they are Camille (the Woman in the Green Dress), On the Bank of the Seine, Bennecourt, Houses on the Achterzaan, Bouquet of Sunflowers, and there are so many more. I am trying to find ways to enjoy the arts in my city. Please let me know below what you are doing to explore your town!

Don’t forget to check out the boutique! A few dresses are on sale! Have a great weekend! 

 

 

Dinner at Restoration Hardware Cafe

 

 

Happy Monday!

On Saturday I am happy to say that I did not do much! It was wonderful. I went grocery shopping and that was it. So nice. On Sunday same thing. I just puttered around the house, got a few chores done and tried to relax. 

On Friday I shared my visit to the Sarah Flint Store. I also talked about my husband taking me to dinner at the Restoration Hardware Cafe. It was truly magnificent and wonderfully chic. I shared my visit to Restoration Hardware here on the blog a few years ago. I was not surprised at how beautiful the cafe was and how it matched the elegance of the store. 

 

photo credit: Mrs. Shockley 

 

This was the view looking into the restaurant! Now how wonderful is that? It is a bit intimidating but if you are confident in living beautifully then embracing places such as this is nothing. 

All of the furniture is from Restoration Hardware of course as well as the chandeliers. I also just learned that there is one in Columbus, Ohio which is really close to me!

 

 

 

The staff was incredibly nice and you could not stop looking around. It was that beautiful! 

 

 

 

 

 

photo credits: Mrs. Shockley 

 

There was a chandelier above each table….

 

 

 

My view from where I sat…

 

 

 

I ordered the roasted chicken of course. You guys know that I love a roasted chicken entree. This came with roasted garlic, olive oil potato puree and natural jus. It was so good! For dessert we stopped by Hatti B’s. I wanted to try their peach cobbler. I will be honest. It was okay. Nothing I would go and try again. After dinner we hit the road and headed back to Indy. I wanted to stay over but I felt like we were so close to home why spend a fortune at a hotel when I can be home in just a few hours. I am so glad that we did. Let me know in the comments section below if you have visited either one of these restaurants. I would love to know about your experience. Have a great Monday!

 

 

 

Diana Krall ~ My First Concert!

 

 

Good Morning,

Goodness, I can’t believe it. October is pretty much over. Wow….. that went by quickly. I feel like I need to get my Christmas shopping done! The list isn’t long this year but I still would like to get things done. I am excited about the weekend. I don’t have much planned, but I am having my cousin over for dinner. We haven’t seen each other in a while so it will be so nice to catch up with her. I want to try to get back into having people over again but we will see. 

I am so excited to share with you all that I went to my very FIRST concert a few weeks ago! I know, I know. It sounds so weird especially since I am 40 and just now doing this but honestly there weren’t many people that I have wanted to go see.

I remember in my teen years how certain rappers came in town and some of the girls and boys that I went to school with would go and see them, but I remember never wanting to go. I mean I had no interest whatsoever. And back then I worked so if I did go I would be paying for my own ticket and it just felt like a waste of money to me.

I would ask my fellow peers the next day or following week how the concert was and they would say everything that went on and I just thought “why in the world would I want to be in a giant room with men constantly in my face and just crazy things going on? No thanks. There have been a few singers that have come to Indy that I thought I would like to see and one of them was Sade. I did want to see her in my twenties, but we just had Lauren and could not afford the extra expense. So here I am 20 years later going to my first concert, and I could not have been happier!

 

photo credits: Mrs. Shockley 

Shop my outfit? My purse is here, my scarf is the Pearl Scarf from my boutique, my skirt is from Amazon, my cardigan is here,  phone case is from Amazon, and my glitter pumps are from Poshmark.

 

I decided to keep my outfit simple. I was going to wear a satin dress but then I decided to wear something that I could be comfortable in and so did Mr. Shockley. He did not want to wear a tie. We wanted to keep things simple.

 

 

The event was at the Center of Performing Arts, also known as the Carmel Palladium. It is a beautiful venue here in my city.

 

 

 

 

photo credits: Mrs. Shockley 

 

Even the carpet has a “grandmilliennial” look to it. It was a really classy location and for the most part everyone dressed up! It made me so happy to see people put on their best!

 

 

 

 

 

My husband paid for box seats so this was our view! It was phenomenal! We had a private space and for the most part it was quiet where we sat. We had “good box” neighbors.

 

 

I took this photo before people started to arrive. It was such a beautiful space and was not crowded. That was a concern as well. The only thing that kept going wrong was the older attendees would snap photos with their flash on! It drove me nuts, but I figured they forgot to turn it off.

 

 

 

Diana was such a great performer. She cracked some jokes and played most of my favorites. She played for 2 and a half hours straight with no intermission and came back out for an encore! I am so happy that this was my first concert. I honestly have no regrets. This was a perfect first concert for me and I am happy that the Lord allowed me to have this experience.

Tell me below about your first concert and if you had any regrets. Have a great weekend!

 

 

 

 

David Austin Roses ~ My First Bouquet

 

 

Good Morning Everyone!

I hope you all had a wonderful weekend. Today is a federal holiday and I don’t have to be in office. Lauren is on fall break for two weeks! I keep telling myself this is the last year for this. She will have shorter breaks this coming fall when she starts college. While she is on break we are going to attend a campus tour today and I have a few Zoom calls set up with some college counselors! Let the college journey begin! 

I will be taking the second week off. I do hope that I can drive down to Nashville to visit the Sarah Flint store! I will be taking that week off from the blog so I will be sure to share whatever I was able to do when I return. In today’s post I did want to share my first David Austin Roses bouquet!

 

 

It’s always exciting to receive a bouquet from Grace Rose Farms. It’s also nerve wrecking! I will not lie. You are not sure as to how these will bloom because they are grown organically so you are always at the mercy of the flower. 

 

 

 

 

This is what they looked like the day that I received them. Not too bad. My husband said that they were shipped from Columbia and got held up in customs. My birthday was on a Wednesday and these didn’t arrive until 3 days later. So I was glad to see that there was no damage. 

 

photo credit: Mrs. Shockley 

 

After about two days this is what they looked like. They were gorgeous and the smell…. goodness I wish I could bottle it. Many perfumes claim to have a rose scent but I have yet to smell a perfume with the scent of David Austin roses.

 

photo credit: Mrs. Shockley 

 

Now I have had Grace Roses before see here and here but my husband and I both agree that this was our favorite bouquet sent from them. Look at how spectacular this was! This was my fourth bouquet from them, and each bouquet has been a dream. I am looking forward to my next one. Have a wonderful Monday! 

Also check out the boutique! There are a few dresses on sale. Oh and don’t forget some of the dresses are on my Poshmark account which means that you can make an offer! Be sure to check that out! 

 

 

 

This is 40…

 

 

Good Morning,

The crisp mornings have stayed so far. I really do enjoy my walks in the mornings. It’s so nice. Well, I had a WONDERFUL send off to 40! My husband did a great job and pretty much got everything that I wanted! It was splendid. 

 

photo credits: Mrs. Shockley

 

On Friday, I came home to see this. My husband was trying to get it done before I came home but I think it worked out. I gained a new friend in the process. 

 

 

It’s a mother and daughter team by the name of Balloon Ambience and they did a great job! I think they nailed it honestly!

 

 

I felt so special. Honestly, I felt like a little kid! The balloon arch is still up and will stay up a few more days. 

 

 

photo credits: Mrs. Shockley 

 

Now let’s talk about this gorgeous cake of mine. I did not even want to cut it. It was so beautiful! I smiled from ear to ear and told my husband over and over how much I loved it so! It was cherry chip on the inside of the cake and tasted just as good as it looked. The cake was completed by Kim’s Kakery, Bakery & Cafe. They did a phenomenal job! I could not have been happier!

 

 

 

 

photo credit: Mrs. Shockley 

 

After that I was presented with my gifts. I could not stop staring at this elegant Gucci Flora Compact. Even if you don’t wear eyeshadow the compact alone is worth having on your vanity. It’s one of those vanity pieces that will always remain timeless. I also received my new favorite fragrance. It’s Aerin Rose De Grasse. The scent is alluring and classic as well!

 

 

On Saturday morning I received another unexpected gift…..

 

photo credits: Mrs. Shockley 

 

This beautiful bouquet of David Austin Roses from Grace Rose Farms! I was not expecting this! It was such a wonderful surprise, and the smell is so amazing! My husband said that they got stuck in customs because they were being shipped from Columbia. Wow…

 

I also went to the Vintage Whimsy Fall Festival and did a bit of antiquing….

 

 

I saw this in the store and could not stop staring at her. It was the exact shape I wanted. I have been looking for an armchair like this for a few years now.

 

 

I tried to negotiate the price, but the seller would not go down. But I could not walk away from it. So I have her! Do you think that I should change the fabric and paint it? 

 

 

 

This photo and this photo are my inspirations. What do you think? Let me know in the comments section below!

 

 

Have a great Monday and thank you all again for the birthday wishes!