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Elegance in Partnerships
Good Morning Everyone!
Well, this was an interesting paragraph that I came across in the English Etiquette book, it was called “Rules for Good Partnerships at Home”. I had to share these tips on today’s blog post. I know we could all use some help in those marriages because sometimes wanting to live in order and being able to accomplish it with a spouse that is different from you can be challenging.
The first tip is…
All decisions made by the partnership are final, and not to be undermined by subordinates. These rules stay in place even if one partner is out of the picture temporarily.
(My husband and I established with the children when they were very young)
Second…
Children must be respectful to both parents and not try to win one over in order to change the opinion of the other.
Third…
Parents must demonstrate respect for their partner in front of their children. There is to be no badmouthing or complaining about their spouse in front of them.
(This one can be hard. Because sometimes I just want to beat my husband for not doing something that I asked him to do 6 years ago)
Fourth…
Parents must ensure that they have sufficient “scared time”. This means a set time in which children must be in bed so that parents can relax alone. Children are not permitted in the bedroom of the parents, or for cuddles on the sofa DURING THIS TIME.
And lastly,
Allow the love for your partner to be seen in front of the children. Kiss, compliment and communicate. You are the models for your children’s future relationships. Set a good example.
Great tips! Most of these my husband and I do pretty well but I’m telling you I have wanted to slap him upside his head for not doing something. Especially when I have waited for YEARS!
I hope that you all enjoyed these tips from author Alena K. Pettitt and pick up her book!
(photos via Pinterest, tips via The English Etiquette)
Silly Worries
Good Monday Morning,
I hope you all had a wonderful weekend. My husband and I are gearing up to drop my step-son off at college this week. I can’t believe it seriously. I will be worrying about everything for him. But I am trying to have a little faith in his new adventure.
Worries are apart of life. I wish they weren’t but I am trying to learn to master my mind and not let silly things worry me. That’s another reason why I wanted to share this article that I found on Real Simple.
It’s called “Do You Need to Worry about these 12 Health Symptoms”? I wanted to share a few from the list that I know that I worried about at some point or another.
1) Okay, chronic headaches. Yes, I am one of the idiots that thought, “well could this be a brain tumor”? Stupid right? Well the doctor from the article said this…
“Headaches alone don’t make me look for a brain tumor,” says neurologist MaryAnn Mays, a staff physician at the Headache Center at the Cleveland Clinic. A brain tumor would typically involve symptoms such as sudden muscle weakness, headaches that wake you from sleep, numbness, personality changes, lack of coordination, vomiting, and changes in vision, hearing, and speech.
2) Breast pain
Of course, I think it’s breast cancer which is horrible. But the oncologist said this…
“Breast pain, in isolation, is almost never cancer,” says oncologist Richard Elledge, an associate professor of medicine at the Breast Center at the Baylor College of Medicine, in Houston. “You don’t need to worry,” he says, “unless you have symptoms, such as new lumps, that don’t come and go with menstruation; changes in the color or some other appearance of the skin over the breasts; or bloody discharge from the nipples.”
Whew…..
3) Chest pain
I couldn’t tell you how many times I have called my doctor about this in the past. But the cardiologist said this…
Heart attacks are relatively rare in people under the age of 45. The average age among women for a first heart attack is 70. Because getting treatment within one hour of a heart attack increases the survival rate, experts say not to ignore intense chest pain that lasts for more than five minutes. “I’ve had female patients as young as 32 have heart attacks,” says cardiologist Richard Stein, the director of preventive cardiology at Beth Israel Medical Center, in New York City. If the pain lasts for more than five minutes, call 911.
and lastly
4) A New Mole, Pigmented Skin Growth or Spot
Since my mother in law found skin cancer on her about 2 years ago, I have been on high alert ever since. But what the dermatologist says is…
A harmless mole, a seborrheic keratosis (a wartlike growth common in people over 40), or an age spot. Skin is constantly changing, in part due to sun exposure. Many changes are harmless, but “if you’re over 30, take new moles seriously,” says Deborah Sarnoff, M.D., a professor of dermatology at the New York University School of Medicine. Do monthly self-exams and get a skin-cancer check from a dermatologist every three years if you’re between the ages of 20 and 40 and annually after age 40. The ABCDE warning signs for skin cancer are a mole or a spot that is asymmetrical, has an irregular border, is unevenly colored (or has patches of red, white, or blue), has a diameter wider than a quarter-inch, or seems to be evolving.
Well, this article sure did calm some of my nerves down. I hope it did the same for you. Please finished reading the rest of the article. There are more facts and reality checks that we all need.
Thanks for reading!
(article from Real Simple.com)
Teaching Elegance & Homekeeping
Well, a new journey has begun with my daughter. As most of you have heard she has started high school! That means that she is getting closer to moving out and beginning her own journey as a woman.
I have been working with my daughter each year trying to teach her ways to clean, cook, and take care of herself. Last year we worked on the laundry. I taught her how to separate clothes, how to work the washer and dryer, and how to properly fold.
She was in 8th grade and I felt like that was the time to teach her that. We also worked on how to make pasta. She likes rigatoni with shredded cheese so I taught her how to make that in addition to making steam rice, roast chicken, and cleaning our rice cooker.
Trying to find the right moments and age to teach her things is difficult. You can try to teach your children everything under the sun when they are 7 or 8 but are they absorbing it? I have learned that each child has their own way of learning and walk by their own course.
I shared on my YouTube channel that I am reading a book called The English Etiquette. It’s been a wonderful read with lots of tips and hints on etiquette at home and at work. I am still in the first part of the book and author Alena Pettitt gave a list of items that your teenagers should be able to do while they are in high school. I wanted to share that list.
* Operating a vacuum cleaner
* Changing bed-sheets
* Replenishing bathroom consumables
* Dividing laundry and operating a washing machine on a basic wash cycle
* Correctly filling and emptying the dishwasher
* Making a cup of tea
* Buttering toast
* Making a sandwich
* Preparing a simple hot meal such as beans or fried egg on toast. (An English meal I presume, so I am working on pancakes with my daughter)
* Preparing vegetables
* Obtain profound knowledge and awareness of personal (we worked on shaving last year) and household hygiene (I taught her how to clean her bathroom)
* Taking out the rubbish and replacing bin bags
* Going to the local shop and confidently buying items for the household from a basic list (I do this every week and she sees me)
And lastly
* Administering basic First Aid and responding calmly and efficiently in an emergency (The school taught this last year but may need to rehearse this at home)
I thought this was a great list! If anything you can glean some ideas from it. I love it! Teaching our children and how to live well is huge. Especially now in this world today, everything is just handed to them. Learning to work and take care of your home can give you a sense of pride and order. Something that is greatly missing today. I have some friends who can’t cook or clean and I wonder all the time how they get through life.
Keeping a beautiful home is one of the greatest jobs on earth to me. I love walking into my home each evening and seeing my beautiful bouquets, starting my dinner for the night, and folding a basket of laundry while watching one of my favorite movies. Your home doesn’t have to be big and you don’t have to have a lot of money just a willing heart. Teach your children and lead.
Thanks for reading!
(photos via Pinterest & Mrs. Shockley)
A Healthy Home
It’s the end of the week and let’s keep things simple. Here’s a wonderful quote from Martha Stewart about having a healthy home….
” Your home should be a reflection of how you WANT TO LIVE– right now, and for the next phase of your life.
It needs to have a good layout for your changing physical needs, and offer you a sense of security and calm. It’s a place to think, do, make, and enjoy.
When you get down to it, we need only a few of our creature comforts to live well- for me, that means having plenty of room to entertain, good light so I can read in bed, and sufficient space for all my animals.”
A Dream Pop-Up Shop
Step Inside My First Pop Up Shop At East Hampton G
gardens!
Enjoy!!
Chic Assignments ~ July
It’s July already and Jennifer L. Scott from the Daily Connoisseur has already given us her assignments for this month.
I must admit I am falling a bit behind due to our vacation. But let’s dive right into the assignments for the month.
Her first assignment was to watch Andre Rieu- Grande Valse Viennoise. I watched it and must say it was 6 minutes of loveliness! My daughter saw me watching it and came into the room and stood and watched it with me! Wonderful right?
We clapped at the end and said BRAVO! It was great!
The third chic assignment was to notice when you are mindlessly snacking. Okay, I always notice when I do this and will tell myself to stop but when it’s those moments in the month where it is always a little harder for me to “fight that feeling” off. During our trip, I noticed that I wanted to snack the entire time. Now I did give into the ice cream and I did buy some of my Dove dark chocolate cherries while I was there but that was it. It is hard sometimes but I try to drink water when I have the urge to pick.